Resolve all architecture open questions, add 13 ADRs, update specs

Resolved all 11 open questions based on project guidance:

Transport:
- OQ-01/OQ-07: ACME/Let's Encrypt with domain + IP paths (ADR-008)
- OQ-02: Default to n0 relay, --iroh-relay override (ADR-009)
- OQ-05: Transport chaining supported natively (ADR-010)

Client:
- OQ-06: Programmatic-first API, no ~/.ssh/config (ADR-011)

Server:
- OQ-04: Ed25519 + OpenSSH cert-authority, no password auth (ADR-012)
- OQ-08: fail2ban-friendly logging + built-in rate limiting (ADR-013)

TUN:
- OQ-03/OQ-09: Deferred entirely, recommend tun2proxy (ADR-014)
- tun-shim.md marked deprecated

NAPI:
- OQ-10: Expose both connect() and serve() (ADR-016)
- OQ-11: Use napi-rs for FFI bridge (ADR-015)

Additional ADRs created during review:
- ADR-006: No logging of tunnel destinations (was phantom reference)
- ADR-017: Stealth mode protocol multiplexing
- ADR-018: Control channel for pubsub over SSH

Fixed: ADR-002 status → Superseded, ADR-007 title typo,
WRAUTH_SERVER typo, ADR-005 stale wraith-tun refs,
undefined ACL feature removed from server.md,
--proxy semantic difference documented.

docs/architecture/decisions/002-tun-separate-process.md

@@ -1,7 +1,7 @@
 # ADR-002: TUN Shim as Separate Process
 
 ## Status
-Accepted
+Superseded by ADR-014
 
 ## Context
 TUN interface creation requires root privileges or `CAP_NET_ADMIN` on Linux, Administrator on Windows, or platform-specific VPN APIs on macOS/iOS/Android. If the core wraith binary required these privileges, the attack surface of root-required code would include the entire SSH implementation, key handling, and transport negotiation.