Add ConnectionRateLimiter (HashMap<IpAddr, usize>) and AuthAttemptLimiter
with check/on_connect/on_disconnect and check/on_failure methods.
Integrate into ServerHandler with structured tracing::info! logging for
auth attempts, connection opened/closed events. No logging of tunnel
destinations per ADR-006. Also add ForwardError type and fix type
annotation in forward.rs to unblock compilation.
